Die Kraft des Schmerzes

The lonely woman in a dark room

Schmerz und Freude sind in unsere Welt der Dualität zwei Teile eines Ganzen.  Das eine kann nur in der Präsenz des anderen bestehen.  Eigentlich ist es ein Segen wenn man (noch) im Stande ist um tiefe Emotionen zu erfahren. Bei den meisten ist dies nur eher unfreiwillig der Fall und man spricht von großem Unglück oder emotionaler Instabilität wenn Burnout und Depressionen uns heimsuchen. Kann doch unsere Wirtschaft und Gesellschaft nur mit immer perfekt produzierenden Menschen funktionieren, die wenn möglich mit stolzen Lächeln beweisen wollen, gerne ein Rädchen in einer stetig wachsenden Wirtschaft zu sein die erpicht ist uns Wohlbefinden zu verkaufen.

Doch eigentlich ist es ein Segen, das Emotionen es uns bei Zeiten unmöglich machen um noch ‚normal‘ zu funktionieren. Es gehört zur Perfektion des Lebens.

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AS YOUR BODY AND LIFE FALLS APART….

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Sometime one’s life is challenging in ways, that of our body and/or our life as we have lived it before nothing is left.  Physical and emotional pain seem to have same shifts in a 24/7 inexhaustible determination.

Illness and losses  open up never known pains and also strengths. In the first place it looks as if they want to destroy us, yet what it actually destroys is our resistance to what we might never have felt in our lives before.

In my case it’s  vulnerability and fear….emotions that have never come up in my life. As a strong, vibrant and adventurous woman I faced every thinkable situation in my life with open arms. Continue reading

Please don’t try to make this earth a better place

 

info-overload-2We experience enough one could say…more than enough. Time seems to be a rare asset and many of us long for some peace.

Are you a machine?

We have become a wheel in a machinery we call life. One appointment or responsibility chases the next. Happy and relieved when we are able to mark things as done we run towards the end of our day, week, month, and year and yes even our lives.  Continue reading

My Vipassana Silent Retreat Experience

dhara271Quite a life experience I had during this 10 day silent meditation retreat Vipassana.  I learned a wonderful meditation technique which I think is really great.

There are some aspects of this Meditation that touches my truth fully. One is that during the meditation only own resources are experienced.  Meaning no music, no nice guidance, no light, no ceremony, no created nice atmosphere by candles, beautiful cushions etc. Let me say all the things we perhaps love to surround us with which evoke pleasurable feelings in us. No this meditation relays fully on our very own inner awareness and beauty — but it goes much further than that. Continue reading

Unconscious repetition or conscious evolution ─ cutting the cord of dependency on our past

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My Life, what is my life actually? Before we know when we grow older we might see that we have become more and more like our parents/caretakers. How is our life influenced by people who are perhaps not even alive anymore. What is needed to really live our own life? Do we really have one? Or is all connected and intertwined.   Continue reading

Life is a playground not a school

tree 3For many it’s true that we are supposed to learn something in our life, others believe it’s about healing karma and some think life’s hard lessons are there to strengthen us to be better prepared to deal with life’s challenges…  I think all of them are right.  As you perceive life, you will most likely experience life.

Lately I saw a test where they put different film music’s under one fighting movie scene. It was hilarious to see. The funny music, just made me grin when one was flying over the table after a hit. Then there was an action music, the whole scene changed for me and I felt excited and tensed. Then with the dramatic music I had almost tears in my eyes and wanted to jump in to help and comfort.

Our main beliefs we have about life colour drastically our perception and with that our feelings and impulses we experience while living, just like a movie music colours the movie and determines your experience.

For the longest time I belonged to the group of people that think that we have to learn and to develop in life in order to live a life by own design. Continue reading

Joy and happiness have nothing to do with each other. Read here how not knowing this sabotages your life choices.

Today I invite myself to be unconditionally me (2)

That I lived for the longest time in limbo and dissatisfaction was because I intermingled those two words — happiness and joy — those two words have actually nothing, and I mean really nothing to do with each other.
Let me share one of my biggest illusion. I thought always that joy is just a deeper version of happiness.  Just something that not just makes me smile but is also connected with love. I was kind of done with just being happy, I liked it but I could not put my energy together anymore to really go for it like  a nice talk, nice food,  a great party or this beautiful beach I love so much.  All this was wonderful but I had no longing for it anymore. The closest to joy I came when I could deeply connect with people, could feel love. But after some time I knew Continue reading

The gift to connect and disconnect freely

dualityIn our social, emotional and spiritual development we encounter 32 gifts and are invited to unpack them during our life. The gift of connecting and disconnecting freely determines our relationship with the duality of life. Today I love to give a small impression on how it might look like if we were fearless in the topic of connecting and disconnecting.  Continue reading

Rude and ignorant or just nuts?

download (1)When do we grant someone to be mentally disturbed….yes I say grant, because it comes with many advantages compared with the normal mental disorders that we simply call rude, selfish, stupid or ignorant.  The labeled mentally disturbed person is not held responsible anymore for what he does because we have somehow agreed not to expect any different behaviour from that person.

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The gift in not being understood

not-understoodBeing misunderstood, or not being understood at all is for many people quite frustrating and also painful. The painful feeling of not being understood knows deeper levels like not being seen, which results in a feeling of being lost (disappearing),  for others its more related to ‘not getting what I need’ and panic of ‘ I will never get what I need’  might come up. Continue reading