Time is a rare commodity. With the excuse of lack of time, we rush from one place to the other, try to do as much as we can within a given timeframe. Productivity and efficiency are values we seem to accept automatically as being normal and needed. We need to organize our time, to have some time for ourselves….to relax, socialize, take care of our body. Calculate time for our relatives, our children and our spouse. Time is a rare commodity and time is likely our most abused commodity as well. How did this happen, that time has become rare and so scarce?
We have become greedy with time, we act as if we are starving and we grab every little moment as if our life depends on it. It’s true actually that we are starving, but not because of lack of time and also not because we do too much, we actually could do even much more if we simply would change our idea of time.
Here we experience time…
Did you ever stand in a supermarket in the line of the cashier? Ever waited for an airplane that was delayed? Those are the moments where ten minutes can be like an hour and an hour like a day. Did you ever ask yourself why this might be the case? Can it be because you had no control, no influence on how to get it done faster? You just had one option: to wait.
It’s my experience that the moment you lose control and you are not able to influence of what to do next simply because you can’t do anything right now towards controlling the next moment, time runs very slowly. Of course the average person starts complaining when things don’t move fast enough or try to push things……losing control of the next moment seems to be a huge fear and for that controlling what will happen the next moment has become our focus.
I create my life….
And controlling is not controlling, yes? We call it creating these days: I create my life! That sounds much nicer. We create our life ─ which means if we are honest, we plan our life. For what? A bit of happiness, a feeling of having made a difference? So many of us run after a fulfilled life and end up with just a full life.
So my promise of the header of this blog, how to have all the time of the world? It’s simple: don’t think of time. And I will not come with this thing of be in the moment, be present in the moment. No, not today. Today I say: simply don’t think of time.
Can you forget about the commodity of time and just do what you do? Likely you can’t, because a day just has 24 hours and there is so much to do…..
It’s not the quantity of things we do on a day that messes us up. It’s our fear of not making it, missing out of something that should have been done. Losing control.
Really too little time?
It’s the stress that comes with it and we nurture that stress by telling ourselves that we have so little time. We complain that we have too little time for ourselves, to relax. That we take on to many things, say too often yes, while actually don’t have time. All this are expression of the fear of having not enough time. Not making it.
Mini exercise that does wonders…
Take a moment and think of all the things you do on a day. Pick one random task and imagine this would be the only thing you would do that day. Think about it and do it exactly the way you do it normally only imagine it’s the only thing to do today. How does it feel? Is it relaxed? Is it even fun?
The thought: “I have all the time” does wonders with every task you do. It changes how you do it and in my experience I do it often even better and faster, because I give it all my attention.
We are not exhausted of what and how much we do but how we do it.
I wish you many timeless times and tasks. It does wonders.
Much love Karin