The gift to connect and disconnect freely

dualityIn our social, emotional and spiritual development we encounter 32 gifts and are invited to unpack them during our life. The gift of connecting and disconnecting freely determines our relationship with the duality of life. Today I love to give a small impression on how it might look like if we were fearless in the topic of connecting and disconnecting.  Continue reading

Rude and ignorant or just nuts?

download (1)When do we grant someone to be mentally disturbed….yes I say grant, because it comes with many advantages compared with the normal mental disorders that we simply call rude, selfish, stupid or ignorant.  The labeled mentally disturbed person is not held responsible anymore for what he does because we have somehow agreed not to expect any different behaviour from that person.

But honestly said, Continue reading

The beauty of being useless

 

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Much of pain is caused in many lives because of the feeling of being of no use, or our doubt that we are a meaningful contribution, that we are doing enough or doing it good enough.

The pain is not just caused by the named above, because most people suppress more or less successfully those feelings by proving themselves that they are of much use. They are great contributors, much needed and often seemingly irreplaceable at the workplace, with friends or family, hobby or ─ you fill it in.  And we also have the martyr type who  clears the mess others make: “If I don’t do it, who will?”  Finally we exhaust ourselves or neglect other important areas in our lives like our health, friends, family, carrier etc.  Yet our (hidden) fear to be of no use is so strong that we sacrifice our real joy in order to get that little or big glimpse of being somehow important.

How would it be if we would be totally at peace with being useless, I mean really useless, unable to produce anything? Continue reading

Help- I am authentic!

authenticity_sealIn my work with children it was amazing to see, how quickly certain fears could be released and conducive pattern installed often with hardly any effort, while at the same time other themes were so stuck and unmovable to the frustration of the parents who loved to see their kid happy and successful. With time I saw that the age of the child seemed to play an important role.  From the age of 11-15 many topics that were stuck before came slowly into movement. I always wondered why.  In 2012 I was inspired by several silent retreats and I started to understand this pattern which was not making much sense before because I always thought mistakenly that healing our pain was the key to become an authentic person, closer to who we really are and the earlier we could heal this pain and release destructive pattern the better it would be.  Continue reading

Do I waste my time?

playing childThis morning I got an interesting question. Is it possible that my fear-based me (ego) interferes with my desire to fully live life and to fully enjoy and surrender to my human being, the energy I embody on this earth. How can  I really know if my mind is not just fooling around with me and I am busy wasting my time?

I like to use the example of a baby. Continue reading

A very special birthday gift

2016-05-06 19.44.11These weeks are our family birthdays. My son celebrates today 24th of May and my birthday is on 4th of June.  My daughter’s is a few weeks later on 11th of July. This year it’s a bit strange

that out of whatever reason, I am likely becoming aware off now, most of my family members can’t come to our birthday party and in my daughter’s case, she will not even be around on her birthday since she travels to visit a good friend in Madrid, and somehow there was no other possibility to travel. All have good reasons not to come, or just popping in shortly since they had other unavoidable things. So life has my attention and I love to know to what this invites me. Continue reading