The first two thought experiments had a great impact on the woman. She realized that her place in the world was not limited to a physical location or people but extended to a deep connection with the interconnected web of life. In that realization, she found peace, joy, and a profound sense of belonging.

In this peace, there was space for a new thought – why do some achieve what they want and others don’t? Some are successful and other not. And how can this be related to the, up to now, perfect system of nature? She thought that this might not be interconnected. Animals, trees, and other parts of nature do not make plans to achieve something. They live naturally their purpose and seem to be content with it.

But she had this feeling that also in this aspect she would find the connection why we humans have this urge to achieve something and why this is, for most of us, a frequent thought.  Will I be successful? Will I be able? Is what we do enough? – And when we have achieved something, what is the next target to set?

She was thinking of her very own life. She struggled often with comparing herself with her colleagues, some of them were very assertive and eloquent. She often looked at them and thought how it would be to be like that. She was more the thinker. She loved to think about everything but unfortunately also what others might think about her when she would express herself.

She preferred to be in the background. She wasn’t an achiever she thought. She wasn’t making the first step in anything. Always weighing all options and consequences of almost every step.

The first two thought experiences had a great impact on how she felt about herself in situations. She was much more okay to be in the background – but still.

What is it with these success stories? She also would love to tell one.

And while she was thinking that thought, she understood one thing.

She wanted to be seen as successful. She wanted to be looked at as interesting.

To be looked at as great!

This was something very different, she discovered, than wanting to succeed in something. She was actually doing all she did very well. She liked it when her work was well thought through and had a strong basis. When she was preparing reports, nobody ever questioned its content. They all knew that it was backed up by facts perfectly.

She connected success with being seen as something special. Something that is outstanding, as the word says: to stand out!

“What if it’s our desire to stand out, to be something special, and that success is our way to be special? To be acknowledged, to be seen as being special.” She questioned herself. “Success is the form as we measure being special our society. But how does this look like in nature?”

She wanted to bring this back to her very first theses: We are part of nature and function to the same rules. The last two thought experiments had a great impact as she perceived herself. She wondered if she could find some proof that with our desire to be successful, it’s also the same.

“How is nature special? Special in the sense of success we might not really see as a rule valid to all aspects of nature. Surely the lion, who is the strongest, will have the pride. He chases away his competitor and surely, we can call this success. But does this also hold true for ants? And how does this work out for a tree? Rather not” she thought loudly.

All had a purpose, she knew, and all was in the right place. But is it special?

Then she remembered her teacher in Biology who shared that every leaf on a tree and every ladybug, every entity on earth had a unique blueprint. No single thing on earth seemed to be equal to another thing, and surely with us humans, we know that we have unique fingerprints and DNA.

No human is identical to any other human. Just like any other existing entities on earth, we seem to be unique. She was searching if there was any exception to this rule – and yes, there is: all electrons are unique – clones of each other. Electrons are one group in the family of fundamental particles just like quarks, muons, and neutrons – and they are all, without exception, 100% identical.

“So, very interesting” she thought. “In essence, we are all the same, yet on the outside, as we express ourselves, no thing is identical to the other. Everything is absolutely unique.”

She was wondering, if perhaps our desire to be seen as unique comes from an inner knowing that we want to be seen as unique? Because, as she discovered earlier, it’s nature’s principle that every aspect of nature holds a very specific place and purpose. It fits the fact that we are also in our natural appearance totally unique. To have a fit. A unique place, unique need, a unique part of nature that fills that place.

She got it. It all fit together.

“We are naturally unique! Meaning, we ARE NATURALLY UNIQUE. We do not have to prove our uniqueness by something society of this time calls success. Our being special and unique is a fact and not an achievement. It is a given fact.”

She paused for a while. She allowed herself to connect with this truth. “It’s a fact”, she whispered to herself. “It’s no achievement! It’s a fact!”

“I am naturally unique and special,” she said with a fine, satisfying smile. A soft feeling of fulfilment washed over her. Calm, yet very present.

“I am who I am – unique and special naturally!”

Then a thought kicked in…

“What does this practically mean?” she asked herself. “I can’t change who I am?? I am who I am?”

“That when I define success as my desire to be seen as special by other –  I am then successful? Actually, NO, people do not see me for what I do! I am just not successful,” she thought, and here her first bliss of joy faded and turned into disappointment.

She knew she was on the right track, and the sure knowledge of being special naturally gave her a great feeling, but there was something important missing.

There had to be more to it than she could see right now. It was true, and she could see and also feel her uniqueness and being special. It felt really good. She was an integral part of nature – also in that aspect. She didn’t doubt it.

But some aspects of this she was missing. “How can I just be happy with who I am when I am a small grey mouse not recognized by anyone?” She questioned herself.  But she was sure she would find out. The feeling was too good, it felt right.

She would find the answer to it, she was sure… to be continued!

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